man i know there are people who call for lgbt+ spaces that are non-alcoholic or aren’t hookup spaces and do so by framing gay bars/clubs as these horrible evil dens of iniquity and basically just regurgitating a lot of decades-old homophobic rhetoric, and those people should absolutely be addressed, but the way people on this site have decided to treat concepts like ‘queer cafe’ or ‘queer bookstore’ like they’re inherently cringy concepts to be mocked is really shitty??
there is a wide range of the community that could benefit from having more non-sexual, non-alcoholic spaces (minors, recovering addicts, people who experience sensory overload, and many more groups). not to mention, it’s not a zero sum game. a call for ‘more lgbt+ cafes’ is not a call for ‘fewer gay bars’. we need both! just…… lay off a bit and maybe be a bit more considerate of other people’s needs, y’know?
It’s quite likely no coincidence that that most ‘mismanaged’ and least profitable social media site is also the one that turned out to be most amenable to the formation of actual communities
To clarify, Tumblr is indeed horribly mismanaged, but notably, it’s mismanaged both in ways that harm us (e.g. doing little about pornbots, nazis, etc.) and ways that have greatly benefited us – not asking for real names, hiding our follower counts, a chronologically-sorted dashboard, etc. are big draws, but in the eyes of other social media monarchs, they look like unforgivable mistakes. If I don’t have to give my real name, that’s that much less information to sell to advertisers. If posts are listed chronologically, Tumblr can’t shove the posts of ‘influencers’ in front of me willy-nilly. Tumblr was a ‘success’ because it was too poorly managed to sufficiently atomize us, and so we actually had conversations and communities instead of being the best products for advertisers.
When you pick up a sword for the first time you will be slow and awkward. This is frustrating, but refuse the temptation to try and become a “faster” fencer. Chasing after speed is like trying to catch smoke. If you try and pursue speed, all you will accomplish is haste. Haste is the enemy of 1st class fencing.
Speed is a lie the untrained mind tells itself when it sees an action it cannot follow. The truth is a combination of timing, control, and fluidity. Fluid motion, even done slowly, will always arrive before a hasty strike. Control will allow you to move without wasteful motion that will slow you down. Timing will eliminate the need to move fast almost entirely. There is no need to get somewhere fast so long as you get there at the right time.
Tip for mymutuals who engage in bladed armed combat
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